How to Make the Holidays Easier When You Are Divorced


Divorce is tough on everyone involved. While the holidays are meant to be a time of rejoicing and celebrating, sometimes it is hard for those who are divorced, especially if the divorce is recent. Here are some ways to make the holidays easier when you are divorced so you don’t have to dread the season of joy and giving.

Start planning early– You don’t want to wait until three days before Christmas to talk with your ex about the holiday schedule for the kids. By then, it will be too late to figure anything out and will likely cause feelings of frustration and aggravation from all sides. You want to figure out where the kids will be not only for the actual holidays but school break as well.

Don’t spoil the kids with gifts– Many parents who have been through a divorce think that they need to make up for things by showering the kids with gifts. Some parents also do this as a way to compete with the other parent. While it might make you feel like parent of the year, it will only cause a situation that is artificial and uncomfortable. You want to give your kids Christmas presents that are within your budget. Material possessions aren’t the only way to show your kids how much you love them.

Begin new traditions– There are so many changes that come along with divorce. Some of these changes are good while others are rather painful. This holiday season, consider starting new family traditions. Maybe, when you were married, you always went to your in-laws for Christmas dinner. This year, try something new like going to your parent’s house or host the meal at your home.

Focus on the kids- Christmas is about the kids; it is not about you and it is not about your ex. It is important that you ensure your children are happy during the holiday season. This means that you don’t involve your kids in any heated discussion you have with your ex. It also means that you may have to give into the wishes of your ex, even if you don’t want to, in order to keep peace for the holidays.'
Krystal Blue
Krystal Blue dropped out of culinary school to be a full time mom to her two little angels, but it is a decision she does not regret! She loves doing crossword puzzles in her spare time and reading romance novels.

18 Responses to “How to Make the Holidays Easier When You Are Divorced

  • Being divorced is so hard on both parents and especially on the kids. It’s hard having a broken family during these special times of the year.

  • These sound like good ideas. I can’t imagine how challenging it must be during the holidays, especially for kids.

  • These are great tips. Divorce is not an easy thing to deal with, especially with the kids. I’m sure a lot of people will find this very helpful.

    Jennifer Williams
    5 years ago

    I grew up with kids that had the issues of their holidays being split. I can remember them saying that they just wanted to stay one place for the day instead of being bounced around all the time to make others happy – try asking the kids what they want.

    Catherine S
    5 years ago

    These are great tips. I remember having to run all over the place on Christmas when I was a kid. We would spend the morning with our dad and the evenings with our mom. I would have preferred to just stay in one place.

  • I agree with the gifts. Kids nee to know you love them for who they are and not for how much you can get them.

  • These are great points. I think communication between the parents is a necessity when it comes to planning.

  • These sound like some great tips – it must be hard planning holidays when you aren’t together. x

  • I hope to say that this never happens for me. These are some tough tips to handle. Good job.

  • I would think this would be super hard for children. Thankfully I am not divorced but my parents were and as a child it was really hard.

  • Starting new traditions is a great way to help kids adjust to the holidays after a divorce. These are great tips.

  • I think the last point is the best! Focus on the kids & nothing else should matter. No bickering, just love 🙂

  • I think that is one of the toughest issues for divorced parents…the holidays. I know it takes some thought and a willingness to work things through and give and take. Beginning new traditions sounds like great advice.

  • I like the idea of starting new traditions. and youre right, divorce is hard on everyone in the family, so it is best to plan ahead to try and make things run smoothly.

  • I can’t imagine how difficult divorce is on the kids during the holiday time. But these are truly some great suggestions 🙂

  • I’ve not personally went through a divorce but I couldn’t imagine the pain all parties involved have to deal with. I hope they can remember its for the kids, and set differences aside.

  • This was especially hard for me as my ex and I lived in two different states. Focusing on the kids is key.

  • New traditions! that’s a great idea! I know it can be really hard for couples and families. holidays are no exception but starting something new would be a great way to start closing the gap

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