As a parent, it probably breaks your heart when your child is sad because their peers don’t want to hang out with them. While we want our child liked by everyone, the fact is that this rarely happens these days. Dealing with peer rejection is not easy for any child, but there are some things you can do to help the situation.
Take time to listen to them- When your child comes to you with their hurt feelings of being rejected by their peers, one of the most important things you can do, as a parent, is to listen to them. If you are busy doing something, stop for a moment to be a good listener. Right now, don’t interrupt them, don’t offer advice, just listen. Once they are done, ask them some questions that you may have, so you have a full understanding of the situation.
Keep things in perspective- When your child tells you that they feel left out with their peers, it is important that you remain calm and don’t overreact in front of them. Instead, remind them that they aren’t alone and that other kids have gone through similar situations. Also, remind them that some of their friends will likely change throughout their growing years. A few friends may stay close to them, while others may just go their separate way. It is all a normal part of growing up.
Encourage them to participate in activities- Encourage your child to participate in activities where they can meet others who share common interests. If they are interested in sports, consider joining the soccer team. If they enjoy going to church, consider joining a church group. Whatever their interest may be, hanging out with others who enjoy the same thing as they do, may help your child form a solid friendship.
Help them with problem solving steps– As a parent, you can help your child through some problem-solving steps. By showing them what steps they need to take to work through a problem, you are providing them with a tool that they can use throughout their life. There are basically 4 steps needed to solve a problem- identify what the problem is, think of a few different solutions to solve the problem, consider the pros and cons of each solution and decide which solution is the best one.