Divorce is tough on everyone involved. While the holidays are meant to be a time of rejoicing and celebrating, sometimes it is hard for those who are divorced, especially if the divorce is recent. Here are some ways to make the holidays easier when you are divorced so you don’t have to dread the season of joy and giving.
Start planning early– You don’t want to wait until three days before Christmas to talk with your ex about the holiday schedule for the kids. By then, it will be too late to figure anything out and will likely cause feelings of frustration and aggravation from all sides. You want to figure out where the kids will be not only for the actual holidays but school break as well.
Don’t spoil the kids with gifts– Many parents who have been through a divorce think that they need to make up for things by showering the kids with gifts. Some parents also do this as a way to compete with the other parent. While it might make you feel like parent of the year, it will only cause a situation that is artificial and uncomfortable. You want to give your kids Christmas presents that are within your budget. Material possessions aren’t the only way to show your kids how much you love them.
Begin new traditions– There are so many changes that come along with divorce. Some of these changes are good while others are rather painful. This holiday season, consider starting new family traditions. Maybe, when you were married, you always went to your in-laws for Christmas dinner. This year, try something new like going to your parent’s house or host the meal at your home.
Focus on the kids- Christmas is about the kids; it is not about you and it is not about your ex. It is important that you ensure your children are happy during the holiday season. This means that you don’t involve your kids in any heated discussion you have with your ex. It also means that you may have to give into the wishes of your ex, even if you don’t want to, in order to keep peace for the holidays.