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Would I Or Should I Allow My Thirteen-Year-Old To Date?

July 13, 2015 in Teens

I remember the days when I was 13. Quite vividly actually. I look at my 13-year-old daughter now and definitely don’t see myself when it comes to the opposite sex. She may or may not have a “crush” on a boy but her maybe “crush” rarely gets talked about. And from what I understand, this probably “crush” has been a “crush” since the 5th grade. Impressive if I do say so myself.

My 13-year-old self was quite definitely the opposite. If there was an award or certificate that was given out for most boy crazy and emotionally haywire, I would have been in the running for most boy crazy. And quite frankly if I wanted to give my young self an excuse, this whole acceptance and searching for attention was more scientific and psychological than anything. But that’s a whole ‘nother blog post.

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At any rate, I’m quite happy to report that what I THINK I know about my daughter and her interest in boys isn’t all over the place like my bi-weekly crush change. And yes, there ARE girls in my daughter’s grade that are very much like I was as a youngster. So I have posed the question to myself quite often this year. Would I (or should I) like my 13-year old date?

First of all, we must consider the definition of dating:

According to the Webster Dictionary: “Dating is a part of the human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.”

*Would I allow my daughter to hang out with a possibly hormonal boy alone? No.

*Would I allow my daughter to go out on an actual date at this age? No.

*Would I allow my daughter to engage in social activities with a boy in public? Yes, IF there was a group of kids and IF there was some sort of adult supervision.

What I clearly remember about being a young teenager is that teenagers are going to find a way to do things they want to do. If you restrict them from doing something, it is going to want them to do whatever it is they are being told not to do more.

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My thoughts are that group activities are probably the best way for a 13-year-old to get comfortable with herself in the company of boys, and for parents to feel like they’re not discouraging her interest but also not providing access or over-supporting, if you will, her interest in dating.

I have no problem inviting a group of kids over to my house, fixing them food, playing music, having board games, Twister, etc. It’s innocent fun! As long as they are all hanging out in the family room or a room where I can walk in and out of, I’m okay with that.

Communication is key, maturity of the kids also plays into consideration. While dating has changed quite a bit over the past couple of decades, one thing hasn’t changed. The curiosity is there. The

Sure there are going to be girls “dating” boys and hormonal drama surrounding that. What I wish my 13-year-old self would have known and understood back then is that there are YEARS ahead of you for boyfriends and dating. Get to know someone as a friend. Don’t think that you NEED to have a boyfriend. Focus on school to get an education. Have fun and relax. These are the best (albeit somewhat confusing) years of your life!

Discussion:  Would you let your 13 year old date?

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  1. mburbage@sbcglobal.net'mburbage says

    July 13, 2015 at 10:57 pm

    Boy meets world I used to watch that all the time. My Son just turned 13 . He has a huge interest in girls but isn’t really sure about how to go about that. Not sure if that’s good or bad, but I’m open to talking to him about it, wish I knew about more of the kids he’s with though could make it a tad easier.

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  2. mariac@toughcookiemommy.com'Toughcookiemommy says

    July 14, 2015 at 1:14 am

    I personally think that 13 is too young to date. Socializing with other teens is fine but let them enjoy being kids for as long as possible.

    Reply
  3. info@dogvills.com'Dogvills says

    July 14, 2015 at 7:29 am

    Thirteen is too young to date for me as well. I can allow outdoor activities with a group, but, dating? No.

    Reply
  4. editor@girlgonemom.com'Heather D. (@GirlGoneMom) says

    July 14, 2015 at 10:13 am

    I think it’s too young. I was way older when I started dating.

    Reply
  5. massmommie@gmail.com'Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says

    July 14, 2015 at 10:57 am

    I think that is too young. I wouldn’t let my kids date that young.

    Reply
  6. maureen@adebtfreestressfreelife.com'Maureen@ADebtFreeStressFreeLife says

    July 14, 2015 at 11:01 am

    I personally think 13 is way too young to date. My daughter wasn’t allowed to date until 15-16.

    Reply
  7. terrylee5151@aol.com'Terry says

    July 14, 2015 at 4:43 pm

    13 is very young to be dating. I made my Daughter wait until she was 16, but at school functions, I am sure she was hanging out with the boys.

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  8. dsargen3@gmail.com'Catherine S says

    July 14, 2015 at 6:47 pm

    I don’t know if I would let my 13 year old date. I might chaperone an outing to the movies or mall as friends.

    Reply
  9. homeschoolingmyblessings@yahoo.com'Mama to 5 BLessings says

    July 14, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    In my opinion that is too young, let them be kids while they can. They have plenty of time to date.

    Reply
  10. pamwattenbarger@yahoo.com'Pam says

    July 14, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    I think it depends on the situation and the parent. You know your kid best after all.

    Reply
  11. sixtimemom@gmail.com'Jeanine says

    July 14, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    13 is young, but I remember being 13 and having a boyfriend. It wasn’t anything serious, it was a school yard thing. It wasn’t until we hit high school that relationships actually mattered.

    Reply
  12. lizventuresblog@gmail.com'Liz Mays says

    July 14, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    I think some of this is easier since 13-year-olds can’t drive themselves anywhere yet. I don’t have any problems as long as there is adult supervision.

    Reply
  13. marison459@gmail.com'Theresa says

    July 15, 2015 at 3:06 am

    I always let my daughter go on group dates with friends. When she was 14 I let her go to her boyfriends house, upon walking her to the door and making sure parental supervision was in place before leaving her.

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  14. cinnaburst_1976@yahoo.com'Dawn says

    July 15, 2015 at 3:47 am

    When my daughter was that age, I let her date. I think it just depends on each individual and how the parents feel on the topic.

    Reply
  15. khourtniey@gmail.com'Life as a Convert says

    July 20, 2015 at 1:39 am

    Heck no! 13 is way too young to date. Plus, our religion suggests waiting until at least 16.

    Reply

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